Are You Budgeting like a Cat, a Monkey or a Flamingo?

Are You Budgeting like a Cat, a Monkey or a Flamingo?

The general attitude around budgeting drives me a little crazy.

It seems to be viewed as the most basic building block of personal finance... which might be true... unless you equate the word 'basic' with the word 'simple'.

It's not simple.

And all the 5 minute budgeting posts and programs on the internet aren't helping (please don't search this site for them... I'm pretty sure I'm part of the problem).

But the more I work with people and help them master their cashflow... the more convinced I am that it takes a heck of a lot longer than 5 minutes.

It takes months to get into the flow.

In fact... there's a pretty standard progression that I walk people through... and I've decided to illustrate it with cute pictures of animals.

If there are three words you remember from briefly skimming this article let be these...

Curiousity. Play. Balance.

Those should be the new budgeting words. They're way better than 'judgement', 'control' and 'self-loathing'.

This is something that all you creatives shuld know well. Stuff that matters takes time, and in order to master anything you have to be willing to experiment.

So this week why not take 5 minutes and start budeting in a whole different way.... start budgeting like a cat...

... and just see what happens.

 

P.S. There is lots of free stuff in the TOOLS section of R2R to help with tracking, and getting started. You should check it out.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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Money lessons learned from terrible late night food decisions

Money lessons learned from terrible late night food decisions

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It was 11pm … and I was staring down at a plate of cucumber slices and half an avocado.

This was not what I wanted.

But a major fail for late-night-wants-to-eat-junk-food-Chris was a huge win for day-time-Chris-who-planned-on-eating-healthy-this-week.

Because if I’ve learned anything about health - physical or financial - it’s that there are certain times in my life when I have no ability to rationally make the healthy choice… and given the chance… I will spend/eat my way to sickness.

I call those times … the bad decision zone.

My late night bad-decision zone

I got myself to a plate of late night cucumbers by an ingenious trick… I didn’t buy any junk food.

So when I got to that late night bad-decision-zone where I just want to eat something full of salt, fat, or sugar (preferably all three)…. there was nothing there.

And so even though I was always going to make the worst decision possible, I made sure that the potential decisions weren’t actually that bad (the bad part of that healthy plate is the amount of cream cheese I ate with the cucumbers as a ‘spread’… still not bad… but… it was excessive).

It doesn’t always work so well, but I’ve found the act of recognizing my bad habits has allowed me to start figuring out how to work around them (at least… when I want to).

Travel planning and spending thousands of dollars on baked goods

The other bad-decision-zone I’ve been forced to recognize in myself has come up as I prepare to leave on a month long trip later today!!!

I was sitting down on the weekend and working through a budget, and became kind of daunted by the cost of travel.

It was so tempting to adjust some of the categories to make myself feel better…especially what I was planning on spending on things like ‘food’.

But here’s the thing….

I know I've got a real bad-decision-zone when it comes to food and traveling.

Whenever I start getting hungry, all bets are off. I want to the tastiest looking thing that’s within eyeshot.

So how do I balance the want to eat great food while I travel… and my want to not come home with $3000 of extra credit card debt?

Mitigating your financial bad-decision-zones

The first step is always awareness. Here’s what I know:

1. I want to eat great food while traveling
2. I cannot make rational financial decisions about that food when hungry

So how do I plan around that?

With my original junk food problem, I limited the decisions I could possibly make, and the same general principle works here.

A daily food budget.

Which is both generous enough to fulfil my travel goals of trying everything that looks tasty… but limits me from making insane choices that I’ll regret later.

I’ll carry it in cash, and only bring the daily amount with me when I’m exploring for the day.

That way there’s a maximum amount of damage my bad decisions can make.

Bad-decisions are hard to manage in the moment

It’s impossible to argue with hungry-travel-Chris.

Once I’m in one of my bad-decision-zones it is way too late to do something about the inevitable bad choice.

That’s why planning and self-awareness are so important when it comes to health.

Don’t pretend like you don’t have bad habits. We all do. Just know what they are, and make some plans to make sure that you don’t sacrifice what you want in the big picture (financial health) for what you want in the moment (all the tasty treats).

Decide how much splurging is okay… and how much would be really damaging to your big goals.

That way you can put all the bad-decision-yous in a cage. They can go as crazy as they want… but they won’t be able to tear the whole house down.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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How do You Build Rituals When You Work in Theatre

How do You Build Rituals When You Work in Theatre

Ritual.

It’s such a nice word. Just writing it makes me feel wiser and more in control of my life.

AND it’s not just for show.

No ma’am.

There’s a ton of research on how useful building rituals into your life are, whether it’s for self-reflection, time to create, or REGULAR MONEY CHECKINS.

 

Why rituals help so much:

I’m not a scientist, so I’m in danger of grossly oversimplifying this.

But basically your brain loves habits and routines because doing new things is exhausting. If you’ve ever traveled to another country you’ll know how this feels. All of a sudden just the act of finding coffee in the morning takes a ton of mental energy.

But when you get back home, your morning coffee just happens. Your body goes through the motions of making it while your mind is still mostly in bed … at least that’s how it works at my house.

Rituals help build healthy habits into the inner wirings of our brain.

And lots of people have incorporated a financial ritual into their day to great effect.

Every morning they’ll sit down with that coffee they barely thought about making and they’ll spend some time with their money.

How lovely.

 

Here’s why that shit doesn’t work for actors, stage managers, and lots of other money misfits….

I’m knee deep in shows at the moment, after 6 weeks of rehearsal.

Every evening at around 10PM (often later) I get the schedule for the next day. And now that we’re in shows my day is completely wonky - breakfast at noon and dinner at midnight.

My lovely coffee and money ritual has totally fallen apart, because the structure of my day is changing constantly.

And that’s something I’ve heard from lots of theatre people… it’s really hard to build rituals when your day never looks the same.

So how do you lock onto the power of rituals when everything is constantly changing?

Good freaking question.

 

How to start building fluid rituals

Whenever I have a problem I force myself to start from a place of strength.

I ask myself: have I found success solving a similar problem in a different part of my life?

In this case my lessons came from variable income.

My money comes in peaks and valleys, but the bills are pretty consistent. It’s the same as my daily routine problem - my time and energy are inconsistent, but the demands of daily ritual are the same.

I solve the variable income problem by:

  1. Knowing what I need both monthly and annually to maintain my life
  2. Knowing the difference between what ‘has to happen’ and what I’d ‘really like to happen’.
  3. Making sure that I’m putting the money that’s coming in where it needs to be

So when I’m trying to make time for the important things - eating well, regular money checkins, and finding some time to write - I’m trying to follow the same pattern.

I look at my next week (‘week’ is loosely defined as the next period of work in-between days off) and ask myself these questions:

  1. How much time do I need to accomplish these rituals every day?
  2. What really needs to be done, and what would ‘just be nice’?
  3. How can I make sure that my spare time is being used to feed these rituals?

The first two questions are essential, and that’s what I’ve really been working on over the last few months.

First, gathering information on how much time I need to feed these daily habits, then consciously making a list of which ones are the most important.

Then things get practical.

I throw up a whole bunch of blocks into my Google calendar, it doesn’t matter where. They just need to be sitting on the week. Often they’re all bunched up on Thursday and Friday for awhile.

Then the night before, once I have my schedule, if I’ve got any time (real time… not just space in my calendar)… I throw a few of those rituals into place.

Is it as good as something that happens at the same time and the same place every day?... probably not…

But it’s working.

So that’s something.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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Sustainable Growth is Based on Your Ability to Sustain Yourself

Sustainable Growth is Based on Your Ability to Sustain Yourself

Creative people (like all people) love to spend money, but not the way most of the world thinks we do.

In my, still limited, experience they love to spend on two main things:

  1. Their business (training, travel, making stuff)
  2. Charity

This is why I absolutely love you crazy folks.

It’s actually making me feel like a real jerk to continually convince people to hold off on giving money to worthy causes… just for a little bit…

But I stand by it because it’s my job to make sure you’re taking care of yourself first.

 

A lesson from a kind hearted little boy who didn’t know any better

I like to help people.

I’ve always been one who can’t quite focus when there’s someone in the room who’s upset. So when I was a little kid… I had to make sure that everyone was okay.

A joke or a hug turned into a casserole or a search for the perfect advice as I got older.

But I got into trouble by stretching myself way too thin.

I gave too much to other people, and didn’t take care of myself… and then things would fall apart a little bit.

It took a long long time, but slowly I’ve learned that in order to take care of things outside of yourself, you have to take care of yourself first.

And I’ve dragged that lesson in the world of finances.

 

Sacrifice isn’t the same as starving

I think we need to draw a line in the sand.

People think that in order to be successful they need to risk everything. We’ve heard that story again and again.

And so we try to live it out. We want big things, we have big dreams and we’re willing to do anything to get them.

Until we burn out.

In a short period of time we’ve given everything we have, and are left with nothing.

I want something different.

It’s not as fast, and it’s not as sexy… but it’s sustainable.

It allows you to slowly work on the things that are important to you… while still supporting the things your mind, body and soul need.

 

Finding your point of sustainable growth

It starts with accepting that you need to take care of YOU first.

Before paying for that lesson, and before supporting one of a thousand causes… your money needs to pay rent, buy good food, and support your other basic needs.

And it’s not about being greedy.

If you truly care about supporting these things, then you need to take care of your ability to support them.

And that means making sure you don’t burn out in the next 2 years.

You need to know what you can afford to do now, and then force yourself to stay in your lane…. taking small consistent steps forward every month.

That’s where your power comes from - committing to small steps over the long haul.

It’s not as sexy as giving up ‘everything’ for a bigger cause.

But I’m convinced it can still change the world.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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Chris’s Adventures with Disability Insurance: Finding a Broker

Chris’s Adventures with Disability Insurance: Finding a Broker

I’ve been scared of sitting down and talking about insurance with someone for awhile now.

I’m not sure exactly why, Sandi had a few theories in our LAST EPISODE OF BECAUSE MONEY, when we talked about all of this.

But John really cut through the shit and made me realize that I was making excuses about something that was really important.

If you want to see the moment he broke through to me… you can find it at 36:11 of the video below.

And so I set up a meeting with an insurance broker.

 

Finding a broker: my tiny excuse for not making any progress

For the last 6 months one of my many excuses for not learning more about my insurance options was that I didn’t know who to talk to.

I know a few insurance brokers in other provinces, and had casual conversations with them about hypothetical clients (some of which existed and some of which were me).

But I didn’t know where to start looking for a broker that could actually sell me insurance.

I wanted someone perfect. Someone I could instantly trust and would dispel any of the baggage I have built up about the insurance industry, who wouldn’t pressure me into buying anything I was uncomfortable with and who could answer my many many questions.

And I had already decided that person didn’t exist…. so why even try to find them?

 

Google. Google. Google.

I wish I had a smarter answer for finding the best broker.

I wish I knew a ton of people in the industry so I could provide a list of the best ones.

And I hope that over the next decade I can do that, so that more of you can quickly connect to someone who understands that the complexity of creative income.

But I started simply by starting, and I feel like I got quite lucky.

I did a bunch of googling, I asked friends for connections, and then I just sent a bunch of emails through contact pages and waited.
Not for long…

Turns out insurance sales people are on the ball. I got a call back within 30 minutes from someone who asked a few questions and then referred me to one of his brokers that specialized in disability insurance.

 

Insurance broker vs non-broker

One of the interesting things I found when I was talking to people in the insurance business was how often I would hear the opposite side of the same coin.

From my broker friend I heard:

“Never trust anyone who isn’t a broker, if they’re not shopping between companies they honestly don’t care about you.”

And from my friend who works exclusively with one company:

“The insurance business is generally a copycat industry. Most companies have the same kinds of products, and so brokers just shop around for the best commission.”

This is the kind of shit that makes me feel like I’m standing in a sinkhole.

How do you know what’s true? How do you know who to trust? How do you know that you’re not making a huge mistakes?

Unsatisfying answer… I don’t know.

I have not found that all products, especially disability products, are equal between companies… but I am not an expert.

What I will tell you is that I was very happy to work with someone who had relationships with people from multiple companies because opera singers… are a hard sell.

 

A brief note on ‘occupational class’:

Here’s where opera singers, artists, and lots of other creative folk get screwed.

Insurance underwriters break down people into risk categories based on what they do. The riskier the profession, the more expensive it is to insure (that’s a gross oversimplification… but hopefully it’s enough for the point I’m trying to make).

And some occupations are deemed ‘uninsurable’…. like opera singing…. by most companies.

I get it.

Our business has a terrible reputation, and it really matters. Who’s going to insure a starving artist with low financial skills? Not many people.

We have yet to prove to this industry that there is an artistic middle class that has managed to secure a level of income stability that should put us on the map.

But that’s a tangent for another day.

For now, the problem in front of us is marked UNINSURABLE.

 

The power of knowing who to email

I have met my broker once, and talked to him twice.

I don’t know him intimately, but he made a very good impression.

Here’s what I liked:

  • he specializes in disability insurance for the self-employed (which is something that lots of brokers don’t know a ton about)
  • he really knew the products, everything that I had researched he knew more about than I did
  • he took the time to break down everything and answer a hundred questions
  • he knew who would be open to working with artists, and who wouldn’t be
  • he knew who to email

Knowing who to email seems to have gotten my uninsurable occupational class by the initial system and in front of an actual human that could look at my particular case.

I may not be able to show a lot of income, but I can prove a level of income stability that is growing by the year.

My broker’s connection to actual underwriting humans allowed me to put through a successful application for disability insurance at a price and premium level that I’m very satisfied with.

I’ll keep you posted on what happens next….

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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