There are many things that are happening in the world right now. For lots of us, the world has forever changed since we rang in the new year.

One of the things I’ve been hearing (and feeling) a lot is people struggling with releasing what this year was ‘supposed to be’.

“I was supposed to be debt free by June”

“I was supposed to be able to go on tour this summer”

Something I found very difficult after my dad died was moving from the present to the past tense. The words got caught in my throat every time. Even now, they don’t seem right.

So much has changed this year. Our goals and dreams for this year have to change too. And I get if you’re not there yet. I get if you need to grieve that change a little longer.

What I don’t want you to do, is hold yourself to an old standard that no longer is possible. If all your work has been cancelled for the next year (I’m looking at you, live theatre people), please don’t set the standard of failure at your previously set debt payoff goals.

Some of those goals are dead, at least they are for now. We instead aim to survive until we can dream again.