Making a Plan: With a Sketch and a Whole Lot of Stretch

Making a Plan: With a Sketch and a Whole Lot of Stretch

I didn’t jump out of bed on January 1st 2019 excited to face a new year. It was mid afternoon when I decided I was putting off the new year for a few more days.

“My new year starts on the 3rd” I told my wife.

… it started on the 4th, and the stress hit the next day.

I was sitting at my computer trying to wade through a pile of emails and tasks that I had secretly promised myself I would finish over the holidays with ‘all my free time’. After an hour I reached that place where my brain just said … nope… and any idea of work stopped.

I needed to step back and get organized. I needed a plan.

First of all, let’s talk about what a plan is (and what it isn’t)

I am not a born planner. For many years I believed that any kind of plan would stop me from being spontaneous and living in the moment.

What’s made me a convert is that I learnt that a plan is not a strict schedule that I must adhere to, but an exercise in which I use my imagination to sketch a version of the future which helps me answer one question: what should I do next?

This is true whether you’re making a plan for the day, the week, or for 2019. The point isn’t to make all your decisions for the next 12 months, but to collect all the stuff you know for sure, you think might happen, and that you really want to happen in front of you so you can figure out your first step.

The exercise of planning is one of stretching the scope of your attention

After waking up with a tension headache I decided to do a gentle stretch session. Shit. It was intense. I was so tight, that every bendy direction given to me by the woman on the youtube was complete mockery.

“Just sit upright and walk your fingertips to your feet.”

… and I attempted to sit upright while my muscles trembled with the intensity of the stretch.

If you’re not a planner, trying to imagine the entire year or even the next month might feel a bit like that.

That’s cool. Planning is an exercise and slowly over time you’ll find that you’re able to stretch your attention further into the future.

Pick a time frame that doesn’t fill you with panic. Imagine a year, a month, a week, the next two days and wait until your brain doesn’t totally freak out.

That’s your time frame.

Sketching out your plan

There’s no wrong way to plan. Well… there probably are wrong ways to plan, but there are lots of ways to get the job done.

Just remember that the point is to help clear up whatever question you have in the moment.
One of the big questions that lots of folks (myself included) have is what can I afford? Can I afford to spend three hours a week working out? Can I afford to take two weeks off in May? Can I afford to go out for lunch today (both in time and money)? Can I afford to get a new place this year?

These questions are especially difficult for variable income earners who have a limited idea of how much time and money they’ll have over the next year.

So here’s how to start laying it down.

The important questions to look at are:

  1. What do I know for sure?
  2. What can I reasonably guess?
  3. What do I really want to happen?

We’re going to take a look at a few examples of how to play around with this. Remember… it’s play, it’s imagination, it’s not going to happen this way… but it could… and it’ll help us with the actual problem that we’re facing in the moment.

Plan #1: Figuring out the week

Question: Do I have the time for ________________?

This was a big problem for me at the beginning of last year. I kept over-committing to stuff and then things would get backed up and I would be stressed. I needed a plan, but I had never really blocked my time out in a systematic way before.

I used Google Calendars because I love being able to colour code blocks of time and it’s really easy to move things around. I can set it one way on Monday, and then shift things as the week goes along. The thing that really helps is that even though I’m moving things around, I’m really connected to the fact that if I move something… it has to bump something else.

To make my week plan I follow the same routine.

First, I block what I know for sure: appointments made, time I want to make sure to take off (evenings or mornings… booking rest time first is another skill I’ve learned this year), you can even put in sleep and meal time to make sure you’re accounting for that.

Next, put in the stuff you’re pretty sure will happen. It might not be confirmed, but you want to make sure to hold time for it. This is a combination of stuff that you want to have happen and stuff that you know happens every week. You need to shop, do laundry, and maybe shower… when is that going to happen?

And lastly, what do you have left for the stuff you want to do. This might be work projects or social stuff.

The thing I love about laying it all out on a dashboard is that I see all the things that are bouncing around in my head, and I can figure out really quickly whether I’ve overcommitted or if what I have planned is realistic.

A note: this might seem really overwhelming to some of you. You don’t have to do this every week. Remember…. a plan is a response to a question or tension in your life. Use it when you need to use it, but the more thorough your process, the more it will help.

Plan #2 Figuring out the next few months

Question: Can I afford __________________?

The same kind of planning can be applied to your finances. Yes, it’s hard to do when you’re a variable income earner and especially for those of you who have multiple income streams, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t patch together some kind of plan.

The list of questions is the same, and you can use this handy dandy tool to play around with them. It’s a variable income spreadsheet that helps you look at the next few months of your life (up to a year) in order to figure out if you’re spending too much or earning enough.

You can snag your own copy to play around with here, and the video below will let you know how it works. 

 

Plan #3 Figuring the year

Question: Can I take a two week vacation in ____________?

I love this exercise (which I stole from a mentor of mine) especially for the self-employed. It involves looking at the whole year and blocking out your vacation FIRST. And I’m not talking about the kind of vacation where you bring your laptop to a new city and then never leave the hotel room because you’re working the whole time. I’m talking about real vacation.

Here’s mine so far. I’m still working on it, but since I’m doing a lot of travelling this year it was really valuable to plan out days to adjust to the jet lag and block off real planned vacation.

Once I had this information I could look at the days I had left and math out the amount that I needed to earn per month in those days. Once I found a balance that seemed realistic I could feel better about starting to make plans for these vacation weeks.

Now all I have to learn is how to actually relax while on vacation. Sigh.

Plan #4 Figuring out the next 5 years

Question: Should I be saving? What for?

Okay. This one for you planning pros who want to stretch yourselves a little bit. It’s a technique that is stolen from the book Designing your Life (which is awesome and totally worth a read).

You can use it to map out your month or your year, but it’s really effective when you’re looking at a larger block of time.

They encourage you to draw out the next five years. What do you know? What do you want? What milestones do you expect to achieve?

But don’t just do one version… do THREE. One for the life you’re living right now, one for a version of your life that you would turn to if you couldn’t do what you’re doing right now, and one for a life that you would love to try if you knew for sure that no one would laugh at you.

Here’s one of their examples.

I went through this exercise late in 2018 and found it a difficult and rewarding thing to do, especially the second two versions. I found myself drawing a future where I was a 100% stay at home dad and one in which I was a cartoonist.

Both of those potential futures have become a part of my 2019 planning… which is pretty cool.

Don’t get lost in the weeds. No one knows what’s going to happen.

If successful planning was perfectly predicting the future there wouldn’t be a successful plan anywhere in the universe.

Planning is a game, an exercise of the imagination and a tool to help you figure out what to do next.

This year don’t get too bogged down in the product. Get your hands dirty in the process. Draw a picture, colour out some time blocks, and spend the imaginary cash of your future self.

And then make your next step a little more confidently.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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Starting Some Financial Work? Be Gentle With Your Expectations

Starting Some Financial Work? Be Gentle With Your Expectations

If there was one thing I would wish for every person trying to get from … well…. from rags to reasonable…. it would be this….

Be gentle with your expectations.

There is nothing in this work that happens quickly. Despite all the ‘only 5 minute’ talk that is posted all over the internet (I’m pretty sure there’s even some of it on this site)…. that’s not how it works.

You will find truths about your finances (and maybe yourself) that you won’t love.

Maybe there’s more debt than you think….

Maybe you spend more every month than you ‘think you should’….

Maybe you haven’t filed your taxes in 7 years….

Maybe things feel really bad.

Learning those things is one of the first steps… but it’s far from being the last step. Knowing what’s going on is key, but nothing is going to change quickly.

 

Getting control of your money isn’t a ‘one time job’

It’s so tempting to believe that you just need to ‘figure out your finances’ and then you’ll never have to think about this stuff again.

That’s what I wanted to believe.

But how could it be?

Financial work is based on the fundamental question of ‘what do I want’? That is not a question that is answered only once in a lifetime. It is a question that is repeatedly asked and answered. It is struggled with and experimented with.

It’s a super hard question.

This work is a craft, and like any other craft it takes years to gain some kind of competency… let alone mastery.

And here’s why that’s a good thing…

 

You don’t have to get it right the first time (and you probably won’t)

If there’s some grand cosmic one-time money solution for all of us, that’s a hella stressful thing. It means that anything that doesn’t solve everything is a failure.

But when we look at it as a craft we can see failure as an essential part of the process. Of course you’re going to be bad at it… you’re just learning!

That way we can apply our better angels of curiosity and non-judgemental self-awareness to actually figuring some shit out instead of giving up after the first time your budget numbers don’t add up.

 

Take the pressure off and start the process…

It’s not going to happen quickly.

You’re probably not going pick the right strategy the first time.

Your first budget will be a disaster.

And now that you know that, you can stop worrying about it. You can stop worrying about fixing everything in a week (or a month).

You can give yourself a freaking break and just start chipping away at it. One piece at a time. One lesson at a time.

And watch things start to get better.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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Two Ways to Think About Making $30,000 a Year

Two Ways to Think About Making $30,000 a Year

When you don’t know a lot about health, ‘weight’ seems like a really good metric.

And maybe in lots of cases it is (I don’t know a lot about health)

What I find so interesting is that the same weight can feel so different in the body. The scale can show you the exact same number… but sometimes it can feel like a healthy version of you, and sometimes it does not.

I’m pretty sure, with my terrible understanding of how the body works, that it has something to do with the things that are making up that weight. To put it in the most binary way possible: fat or muscle.

It’s not just the number, it’s what makes up the number that plays a huge role in whether we feel healthy or not.

How $30,000 can feel completely different…

If I travel back in time 7 years, I was working at a young artist program and making a pretty decent salary - $1,000 a week for around 30 weeks in the year.

Okay. So it wasn’t a ton of money, but it felt like quite a bit at the time.

$30,000.

Let’s compare that to the last two years. I’ve been going through some transitioning, building up my financial practice, educating the old brain blah blah blah… it’s been a low income couple of years.

In fact two years ago I made around the same: $30,000

Two different years. Two very different feelings. But that isn’t even the half of it.

On the surface I remember very clearly that my first 30,000 felt like a lot. It was my first time making significant money as a singer. It was also paid out in monthly paycheques, which is unheard of in the arts business (at least it is for opera singers). I was taking people out for dinner, and buying all the fancy sweaters.

The second 30,000 felt completely different. Over half of it came from one and a half month’s of gigs. Which meant there were lots of months I was making no money at all. Even though I had a GOOD SYSTEM FOR MANAGING VARIABLE INCOME, going months without the validation of a paycheque made me feel way less positive about my money.

So there you go…. point proven…. income numbers are not created equal, there’s a lot to be said by how those income numbers break down.

And also, I don’t really care about that right now, there’s another level to this whole thing.

Let’s go deeper.

What can $30,000 a year buy you?

So to sum up - 7 years ago Chris felt rich, 2 years ago Chris felt like he was barely scraping by - but you know that I don’t care about how much money is coming in… it’s how we use it that matters. How we use it is a huge factor in how successful we feel about our money.

7 years ago I was pre financial renaissance. I had no idea how I spent my money. I lived by the old code: when you have money spend it, and when you don’t …. live off hotdogs and Mr Noodle.

I finished that year with nothing to show for it. Well… I’m sure nothing is a bit drastic, but since I hadn’t really made clear what my financial/life priorities were, only a small amount of money was getting through to the things that were important.

2 years ago I was in a different stage of my financial technique.

I was able to not only MANAGE THAT VARIABLE INCOME, but funnel it into the things that mattered I’m a little blown away at all the things I was able to do: put thousands of dollars into fixing my teeth, invest another couple thousand in financial planning courses, launch a blog, and buy a new computer and bike.

That’s the difference that a financial technique can make… not necessarily in the amount of income that you make, but the efficacy of every dollar that you have.

Changing everything about how something feels… while not changing anything about how something is

For someone who doesn’t know a lot about money, ‘income’ seems like a really good metric.

And sometimes it is.

But you guys know that income is a hard thing to depend on. And I’m here to tell you that if you’re expecting more income to make you worry less… it won’t.

What’s going to make you worry less is changing the make up of that number. Diving into your expenses and making sure that your money isn’t getting sucked down a black hole or into stuff you don’t care about.

There are a lot of ways to live a $30,000 life.

I’ve lived two options, and there are thousands more.

But the income alone doesn’t determine the possibilities.

You do.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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‘Clipping Coupons’ Takes Time (Lots of Low Income Earners Don’t Have It)

‘Clipping Coupons’ Takes Time (Lots of Low Income Earners Don’t Have It)

There’s a real tone of distaste and disrespect that people who consider themselves financially literate use to describe people who are struggling, especially with their cashflow.

Even in it’s best and most well meaning form - the ‘tough love’ approach - I really don’t like it.

Now, part of that is about me and my problems with conflict, but part of it is the way we pretend to know everything about some else’s life.

It’s funny how you can know something somewhere in your mind, but until you come face to face with it… you don’t really internalize it.

That’s been the case since I started to work with people who struggle with cashflow, especially those that fall into lower income brackets.

The biggest thing that I’ve learned is that my clients work so hard. They work multiple jobs and insane hours. They work and they work and they work.

And most of them don’t have time to clip coupons….

What happens when you’re short of time, money, and energy….

Cashflow problems are painfully simple when you cut down to the bone.

You’ve got to spend less or earn more.

But that simplicity really doesn’t do much to represent how freaking complicated that is… especially for people who have next to no time and energy to problem solve those things.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m super busy… it’s hard to find time to grocery shop, cook, and ‘bring a lunch’.

Clipping coupons, finding deals and ‘buying in bulk’ also go onto the list of things that are great ideas, but hard to apply when your short on major resources.

And if you try to make more time, or find moments to rest… that means you’re making LESS money. Not great for the cashflow formula.

I think wider scope is needed when we think about solving these problems

The cashflow formula is too simplistic, especially for people living in on a lower income.

Yes, it’s cold reality is one that needs to be recognized, but when trying to come up with solutions we all need to think outside the box.

It’s not just money that needs consideration. It’s time, and it’s energy.

Because every shift of a budget item creates a greater demand on one of the other two, and if you you have any hope of making a monthly financial plan that works… it needs to be realistic.

It will be harder to figure out, but I don’t think that’s a surprise to anyone who’s actually living this reality.

They know it’s hard, but the vibe they get from the ‘financially healthy’ makes them second guess that.

Don’t.

It feels hard because it is hard.

The balance is more than just ‘spending less’ or ‘learning to be frugal’, and it’s going to take time and a whole bunch of energy that you don’t really have to change things.

It’s not impossible.

But let’s stop pretending there’s a simple solution.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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What I Believe About Money

What I Believe About Money

I had a conversation last week that really sent my brain humming.

It was about separating what we ‘believe’ about money from what we ‘know’.

That might not sound exciting, but the more I thought about what I believed about money, the more I got into some really vulnerable places.

It’s kind of crazy. As I was jotting them down today I had so much trouble actually putting them down in black and white. My hand didn't want to do it. My heart started beating fast

I’m not sure what’s all going on, and maybe it’s just me. But there’s something about these beliefs that’s powerful.

And that's what I wanted to share with you today, in a much longer than normal email, a few of these panic inducing beliefs and how they’ve shaped, and continue to shape, my thinking.

I’ll be curious to know if any of you will find them familiar…

 

I used to believe that making more money will cause stress in my relationships

Back when I was a poor student, so were many of my friends, and the experiences that we had in our shitty apartments scraping by from week to week were a huge part of our relationships. It was one of the big things we had in common. Everyone was struggling with money.

And so 7 years ago, when I started to face my money fears this was one of the first core beliefs I came up against.

I was so scared that if I wasn't struggling... that I wouldn't relate to my friends anymore. Maybe I’d find myself on the ‘outside of the club.’

What I learned: my experience with this belief has been largely positive. The better I got with my money the more I've been able to open up a conversation with friends who feel really isolated in their struggles. But there are friendships that I have lost because we have less in common, and I still struggle being open with some of the people in my life about the fact that I’m not struggling anymore.

 

I used to believe that money is a barrier to what I want to do

"If I had the money to go on all the auditions, then I'd be more successful"
"if I had the money to travel more, I'd be happier"
"If I had the money...."

But then when I got more money… it didn’t unlock all my financial struggles. I was blaming things on not having enough money, but the actual problem was way deeper than that.

What I learned: Slowly, I learned that the barrier was my fear of money. The barrier was my lack of tools to use my money effectively. Those barriers have largely been broken down, and these days I don’t see money as a barrier… I see it as a tool.

 

I sometimes still believe that getting paid for being an artist validates my ability as an artist.

There aren’t a lot of success metrics for opera singers. This business is so subjective… one person’s favourite singer will be hated by someone else.

So I turned to the idea of ‘making a living’ or ‘amount earned’ to measure whether I was successful or not.

I clung to the belief that as long as someone was paying me for the work I was doing… it must mean I was good.

What I’m learning: It’s dangerous to link artistic satisfaction with something like earnings. As I work in the opera industry less, I’m forced to make to set my own goals and define my own success. It’s hard, and I’m still struggling with it. But I know so many amazingly talented singers and artists that don’t monetize their abilities at all. It doesn’t make their ability less, so why do I think it should make mine less?

 

I sometimes still believe that I have a unique financial life and that the conventional rules of personal finance don't apply to me

I’ve never felt like my values or lifestyle are particularity well understood by the financial industry. I know lots of you feel that way too. It’s one of the main reasons I started R2R to begin with.

The problem that this belief has caused me is that I’m quick to ignore or discount tried and true financial fundamentals. And then, after months of inventing my own wheel… I realize that someone else has already done it.

What I’m learning and relearning: Yes, my situation is unique, but there is a lot of tried and true wisdom in the world. I don’t have to reinvent everything. Often I just need to tweak it a bit.

 

I begrudgingly believe that I should be able to be 100% independent financially, and anything less than that is failure

Ugh.

I don’t believe this about anyone else, but I do believe it about myself.

We’ve got something in our North American culture that glorifies independence and demonizes the reliance on someone else or a community.

Financial planning for lots of people needs to include the strength of a group because the numbers can’t work on your own.

The flaw at the heart of this belief is that somehow independence is better than dependance. Intellectually I don’t believe that, and yet it seems to be something I insist on for my own situation.

What I’m learning: I am not independent. No matter how I paint the picture, I am where I am because of the privilege I was born into and because of the generosity of my family, my friends, and my mentors. My independence is a myth, and my ‘pride’ in it is a trap. I am not ‘doing it all on my own’… and that’s not failure. I know this… but I’m still working through it.

 

What do you think? Anything sound familiar? Got any other ones you’re carrying around. If something comes to mind leave me a comment or come talk it over in OFFICE HOURS.

Emily Nixon

Emily Nixon

Rags to Reasonable Community Outreach Coordinator

Emily Nixon is an actor/writer/director/filmmaking Swiss Army Knife. She is also a big money nerd and Community Outreach Coordinator for Rags to Reasonable.

She came to this work after becoming completely fed up with living paycheque-to-paycheque and being too afraid to look in her chequing account. She is passionate about empowering other artists and variable income earners to keep doing what they love and feel confident about their finances.

Email Emily at emily@ragstoreasonable.com

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